As women, we're often taught to prioritise the needs and expectations of others over our own. We're told to be polite, kind, accommodating, selfless, good girls, perfect wives whilst being ambitious and excellent at our careers – even at the expense of our own well-being. The truth is, when we try to be any of that, we lose ourselves and we compromise on who we are. In turn, we are not only doing ourselves a disservice, but we're also doing a disservice to the world.
Staying true to yourself is crucial in all areas of life – from relationships to career, to personal growth. It's the only way to live a life that's truly fulfilling, both for yourself and for those around you. We have been mislead to think that compromise is the solution for a happy relationship and life, but I am here to tell you that it is not.
Compromise means that we accept something that we don't actually want and instead choose to take a little pain therefore living in pain for the rest of our lives. In the end we settle and get used to that pain and we no longer feel or see it is there, but it undermines us from within. Compromise is only acceptable when it is in relation to something that is not a core value eg which restaurant to go to or where to go on a holiday, but not when it comes to values, needs, attitudes or direction in life eg wanting to be a parent, needing a mature partner, respect etc.
When you stay true to yourself, you honour yourself, your unique gifts, passions, and perspectives. You honour your own existence and the intelligent life force that created you and that life force makes no mistakes. It created you because you are valuable and have a place in the world, for the whole of you not just parts of you.
Unfortunately, the environment we grew up in and the experiences we had with our parents often forced us to reject, disown and abandon parts of ourselves. Because we were shamed as children, we then decided to disconnect from that part to avoid discipline from our parents. That creates inner conflict which causes us to make poor decisions in life and go into self sabotaging behaviour. So when we compromise on who we are and sell ourselves short we are practically telling the world that we aren't worthy of being seen and appreciated for who we truly are. We might be able to succeed in the short term, but in the long run we'll end up feeling unfulfilled and disconnected from ourselves.
On the other hand, when we integrate these parts, and do the healing work, we allow ourselves to shine in a way that is authentic and true rather than trying to fit into someone else's mold. When we place the power in our own true nature we engage our natural abilities to make decisions that serve our greatness and create the life we want. It is saying to the universe that we are alive and ready to receive the magic of life, and the universe responds to that energy because the universe isn't there to punish us. The universe is a vibrational entity that responds dynamically to our vibration and says yes to what we say yes to.
Once you begin to say yes to your heart you begin to attract people and opportunities that align with who you are, and you're able to make a positive impact in the world in a way that only you can. you start feeling contentment, peace, joy, freedom and begin to see how magical life can actually be. Magic is only available to those who are open to it. You don't have to believe it, all it takes is to be open to it.
That's why it's so important to embrace your authenticity and stay true to yourself, no matter what. It is true that during the healing process some people, jobs and situations will drop away, that is only because they no longer serve you. The new path will require a new you. It is our mind that tricks us into thinking that in order to get what we want we need to compromise and settle but it is the opposite. We can only get what we want if we don't settle for anything less. eventually it will find its way to us. We just need to be patient and not fall into the mind trap that we are losing time. In the universe nothing is ever late. Everything is always on time.
It is not always easy – it takes courage, vulnerability, and a willingness to be seen in all your messy, imperfect glory, but it is worth it.
And that is where mariya's signature program, Divine Feminine Rising, comes in. It provides a safe and supportive space for women to heal, emerge into their true authenticity and power, and cultivate the art of deep feminine magic. In this program, you will learn how to connect with your inner truth, establish boundaries, communicate your needs with ease, and learn how to create the most magical life you can possibly imagine, because that is the life you deserve and came here to live.
So if you feel the calling from inside and are ready to step up, to learn how to own your power, to embrace all of you and create true fulfillment and magic in your life, we invite you to learn more about Divine Feminine Rising. You can find out more information by emailing info@vitruvianwellness.co.uk to receive your free masterclass. It is time to stop playing small and say YES to your heart.